The post you've all been waiting for...NFP. Don't worry, I'm keeping it rated PG because this is a family blog and I'm hoping my kids will be able to read this some day. Contraception is not a modern concept. Even the ancient Egyptians have records on it and it was a common practice in Roman times. Historically, all christian denominations (Catholic and Protestant) rejected birth control. This changed in 1930 when the Anglican church decided to permit contraception. In response, the Catholic Church reiterated it's stance against it. Other christian denominations soon followed the course of the Anglican church. Then the Pill was invented in 1953, at that time the theological argument was that it prevented ovulation. For those unaware, the Pill does not just prevent ovulation but it also blocks implantation of a fertilized egg. If implantation does occur the baby usually does not survive because the lining of the uterus is too thin (that's why women on hormonal birth control have shorter, lighter cycles). Also, in the 1950's they were unaware of the cancer danger to women on hormonal contraception. There is a reason why we pulled hormone replacement therapy off the shelves for older women...it drastically increases the rate of breast cancer. Did you know that those same drugs are in hormonal birth control (only at much higher doses)? In fact, the women's breast cancer risk is higher because many young women on hormonal birth control have never been pregnant. Pregnancy matures the breast tissue and offers some protection from the cancer risk of the chemical drugs. But society seems to think it is an acceptable risk to give these drugs to our teenage girls and young women for the sake of "consequence free" (baby free) relations. What's worse, most doctors don't even tell women about the dangers so they can make an informed decision.
|Me at my bridal shower, 1998|
(my mom is in the background)
"Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control" (I Cor. 7:5, NIV).The following verse says "I say this as a concession, not as a command", but that part is rarely quoted. The Apostle Paul himself states that he is not writing these words to be followed as law. He acknowledges that marital chastity is a difficult discipline to master and concludes that if a person is struggling with it that it is certainly not wrong to have relations with your spouse. I feel as though I got the wrong impression about marital relations growing up. It was seen as something that was wrong to do before marriage, but it was wrong not to do it after marriage. So the marriage certificate was the key. Young people were expected to practice chastity in their lives up until the point of marriage and then after that all bets were off. There was no discussion of marital chastity, except for the idea that affairs and pornography were probably off limits, because they involved other people besides your spouse.
"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure..." (Heb. 13:4, NIV).
|6 month old Soccer Boy|
|Me and 11 month old Firstborn|
|9 months pregnant with Soccer Boy|
|Me and 1 year old Soccer Boy|
|7 months pregnant with Game Boy|
Next installment...Game Boy's church dedication and my aha moment about how little I knew about the Catholic faith...
Conversion Story - Part 4
Read Part 2 here